73 ways to be a Gentleman

Just thought the topic needed to be approached because I feel it’s a dying practice… And one day I hope to raise nothing but little gentlemen… They’ll do it right… and they will know the difference between a salad fork and a steak fork. It’s too late for me and Robert… But I can teach others.

1. STAY FAITHFUL

Men, and I mean REAL men, stay faithful. They do NOT spend all their time looking around for other women.

2. ADMIT WHEN YOU’RE WRONG

Even if you’re right sometimes, just don’t argue. I mean seriously… Pick your battles.

3. SAY NICE THINGS

Be nice, tell her she looks beautiful, tell her she’s pretty. Say them when you really mean them, and even when you don’t too. It will save you a lot of time and effort.

4. WHEN SHE CRIES

Don’t lose your temper and don’t you dare say a word. Just hold her in your arms and make her feel safe and calm. Even in public. Even if she pushes away at first, just hold her and kiss the top of her head.

5. LOVE HER WITH COMPLETE TRUST

Don’t judge her based on your exes and how they burned you. She isn’t them… isn’t that why you chose her? She is the one you chose.

6. NEVER COMPARE

The most hurtful and vindictive thing you can do is to compare her to another girl. She will feel inadequate and lose self esteem. Comparing her with your ex could be hazardous too.

7. DON’T OVERPROMISE

Don’t make promises you’re not going to keep. It will make her trust in you falter and over time you will lose it.

8. TEXT HER OFTEN

Simple messages like good morning and good night work way beyond your belief. You have to do it every day whether you feel like it or not… It’s the little things.

9. SPEND TIME WITH HER

Spending time with your girl is nice, but don’t ditch your friends.

10. BE CHIVALROUS

Open the door, extend your hand to her, hold her hand when you cross the street. Pull the chair out for her when sitting at a table. Stand when she gets up to leave and when she comes back. DO IT!

11. LYING IS THE DEVIL

A true gentlemen never lies to his girl. (Unless it is about the glass of cognac they just downed… “No baby this is my 5th.” Just don’t slur your words)

12. MANNERS

Treat your woman with respect. Be polite and care for her, and everything she cares about (even if it annoys you).

13. BE A GOOD LISTENER

You have to listen, at all times. Talk to your mates if you have to. But with your girl, LISTEN.

14.  ROMANTIC GESTURES

Simple as writing “I love you” on a post it note, or calling her unexpectedly in the middle of the day qualifies as romantic. Buy her a single flower, leave her a simple love note, get her favorite chocolate and watch a chick flick with her.

15. NEVER ASK ABOUT THE LAST GUY

That’s just bad manners, and trust me you don’t want to know. Unless she offers this information up to you, let it be.

16. DON’T BE RUDE

A true gentleman is never rude.

17. NEVER BLAME HER FOR YOUR MISTAKES

Not even for her mistakes. The blame game is a slippery slope to a hell which you don’t want to visit.

18, LAUGH AT HER JOKES

So what if they’re not funny. It’s polite and it makes her happy.

19. HAVE PILLOW FIGHTS WITH HER

But make sure you don’t get too excited.

20. TALKING BAD BEHIND HER BACK

Not a good idea… she will find out. And there will be hell to pay.

21. DRESS WELL

Always dress well when you’re with her.

22. REPLY TO HER TEXTS

Don’t ignore her. Or you can risk the well being of your phone and playing 20 questions.

23. NEVER ASK HER TO BUY YOU SOMETHING

That’s just pure and simple douchebaggery.

24. NEVER FORGET HER BIRTHDAY/ANNIVERSARY

Do I need to tell you what will happen????

25. PAY FOR DINNER

So what if her 10 friends are also there…

26. GOOD HYGIENE

Cut your nails, keep your hair neat. Have a good hygiene routine for all the important parts of your body.

27. DON’T FORCE HER

Yes, even when you want to watch your favorite match with a few pints of beer and she wants to go out shopping. Just go out shopping with her.

28. GIVE HER YOUR JACKET WHEN SHE FEELS COLD

I understand that’s your $800 dollar Gucci jacket, but what can you do.

29. IF SHE CAN’T SLEEP

Don’t tell her to take a few sips of vodka, instead read her some nice stories.

30. GIVE HER FLOWERS

Everyday would be a bit much, but occasionally is just right.

31. NOTICE THE LITTLE THINGS

No, not that. Little things matter to her. So they should matter to you too.

32. CARRY THINGS FOR HER

That’s part of being chivalrous.

33. COMPLIMENT HER

Do that as much as humanly possible.

34. MAKE HER HAPPY

Do whatever you can to make her happy. (Tip- taking her shopping will help.)

35. NEVER SLAP HER

Even if it’s just for “fun”.

36. IF SHE SLAPS YOU

Don’t say a word. You probably deserved it.

37. IF YOU LOVE HER

Don’t just say it. Show her every day, whenever, wherever you can.

38. DON’T JUDGE HER

Never, ever. It’s bad karma.

39. EXPECT LESS

And give more, mantra to make her happy.

40. BE SPONTANEOUS

Women hate the same thing over and over again day after day.

41. BE CO-OPERATIVE

At all costs, good for your health.

42. SMILE OFTEN

And you shall see her smiling. Cry, if you have to, in the bathroom.

43. DON’T TAKE HER FOR GRANTED

She’s the best thing to happen to you, and if she isn’t there is more reason not to take her for granted.

44. HUG HER FROM THE BACK

From the front means you want her, from the back means you adore her. She likes both, and even sideways.

45. KISS THE BACK OF HER HAND

And front, and sides, and arm. Kiss all you can, while you can. But, know your limits. Don’t overdo it.

46. GOOD GRAMMAR IS SEXY

Never underestimate the seductive powers of a fine vocabulary. I mean seriously…

47. WATCH THE SUNSET WITH HER

It’s romantic, for her

48. NEVER LET HER WALK HOME ALONE

You never know what you’ll get in return.

49. ACCEPT HER FOR HER

Don’t let your expectations ruin what you are getting, you never know, it may be better.

50. CALL HER BEAUTIFUL INSTEAD OF SEXY OR HOT

Once you’ve said it a few times, then you can call her a bomb.

51. ALWAYS HAVE HER BACK

Gentlemen don’t hold grudges, and they always forgive.

52. GIVE HER WHAT SHE WANTS

And she will give you what you want 😉

53. BOOBS OR BUTTS DON’T MATTER

Okay they do, but don’t show it.

54. DON’T SWEAR

Period.

55. HANG OUT WITH HER FRIENDS TOO

Not just hers, don’t miss the opportunity.

56.  SHE’S MORE IMPORTANT THAN VIDEO GAMES

Really, believe me.

57. NEVER INSULT HER, EVEN IF YOU’RE JOKING AROUND

It’s not what gentlemen do.

58. NEVER BE LATE FOR A DATE

Work can wait, girls can’t.

59. UNEXPECTED SURPRISES

Give them, and get them. It’s mutual.

60. MAKE HER FEEL LIKE A PRINCESS

Every girl wants it.

61. LET HER REST HER HEAD ON YOUR SHOULDER

Rest will follow.

62. NEVER MAKE EXCUSES

Men aren’t good at it. Admit it.

63. DON’T TALK TO HER WHEN YOU’RE MAD

You will screw something up.

64. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS

And the girls see if you’re acting.

65. GIRLS LOVE GUYS WITH THAT CUTE SMIRK

Promise.

66. SHE COMES FIRST

Always. Period. End of story.

67. DON’T BRAG

But if she does, listen very closely.

68. NEVER LET A DAY PASS WITHOUT SAYING ‘I LOVE YOU’ TO HER

At least ten times a day. I mean it. Don’t.

69. FOREHEAD KISSES

Even if her forehead is sweating.

70. HAVE THOSE ‘I LOVE YOU MORE’ FIGHTS WITH HER

But, make sure she wins every single time.

71. KISS HER SPONTANEOUSLY IN THE MIDDLE OF HER SENTENCE

Especially when you think she’s about to get mad at you for what you’re doing wrong.

72. KISS HER WHEN SHE’S SLEEPING

Now, that’s a good thing to do.

73. HAVE TICKLE FIGHTS WITH HER

And let her win!

Jacky D

XOXO

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One comment

  1. Tina Jones · May 22, 2015

    Why do you feel it is too late for you and Robert? Maybe this is your letter to him?

    Like

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